How to Leave Your Dog Alone: Step-by-Step Training Guide

Why Alone-Time Training Matters

Around 50% of UK dogs show separation-related behaviours. The vast majority of cases were preventable. A dog who was gently introduced to alone time from the start -- and who learned that your leaving predicts your return -- rarely develops genuine separation anxiety.

The Starting Framework

Alone-time training works on the same principle as all desensitisation: expose the dog to what they find difficult, but only at an intensity they can cope with. Build from there.

Phase 1: Safe Space Foundation (Weeks 1 to 2)

Before working on alone time, your dog needs a settled resting place they associate with calm and safety.

• Choose a consistent spot: a bed, crate, or defined corner
• Feed meals there. Give long-lasting chews there. Make it the best place in the house.
• Practice short settle cues: ask your dog to go to their bed, reward calm behaviour, gradually increase the time before the reward
• Do this with you present first -- the skill is settling, not being alone

Phase 2: Out-of-Sight Practice (Weeks 2 to 3)

Once your dog settles confidently in their spot with you present, introduce brief out-of-sight moments.

• Leave the room for 5 seconds while your dog is settled, then return
• 10 seconds, 30 seconds, build to several minutes across multiple daily sessions
• Return before any sign of unease. If your dog gets up to follow you, go back a step.

Phase 3: Departure Practice (Week 3 onwards)

Begin practicing actual departures.

• Pick up keys and sit back down (break the departure routine)
• Step outside and return in 10 seconds
• Build to 30 seconds, 1 minute, 5 minutes, and beyond
• Use a camera to monitor. Your dog should not be vocalising or pacing.

Phase 4: Extended Alone Time

Once your dog can be left for 20 to 30 minutes without anxiety, longer periods become much easier to build. The hardest work is in the early phases.

Practical Tips

Give a long-lasting chew before you leave. A stuffed Kong, lick mat, or bully stick gives your dog something to do in the critical first 10 to 15 minutes. Freeze the Kong for extra duration.

Keep departures and arrivals low-key. Drawn-out emotional goodbyes increase pre-departure anxiety. A quiet departure is better for your dog.

Do not return to a barking dog. If your dog vocalises and you return in response, you have trained them that barking brings you home. Wait for a two-second pause in noise before returning.

For Puppies: Start From Day One

The first week with a new puppy is the ideal window to begin alone-time training. Begin Phase 1 immediately. A puppy who learns to settle happily from week one rarely develops separation anxiety.

For Newly Adopted Adults

Film your dog on the first few occasions you leave, even briefly. What you see on camera determines your starting point. Some rescue dogs are completely relaxed alone. Others have deep-seated anxiety requiring a slower approach.

Full treatment guide: How to Treat Dog Separation Anxiety